Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Journey


Shakespeare said:
 "All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts"

Our lives are not just "sound and fury signifying nothing" as the Bard said. For those of us left behind on the stage-- the show must go on. And we have to learn our new parts as other "characters" come and go.The play can change from comedy to tragedy at a moments notice. Love, loss, pain and hope are all part of the play and who we become as a result signifies everything.

This Saturday was so unbelievably shocking and upsetting that I can't even write about it yet. But my writing group friends mentioned it   HERE, HERE and HERE. We have all been floored.

Sometimes things happen that are hard to even wrap your head around. When people you love suffer it is the darkest, most helpless feeling in the world. You don't want to move on like nothing happened--you don't want to leave someone to grieve alone. But that's the tragdy of it all. Everyone grieves alone. Surrounded by love, by support... we are alone inside the pain.

"He lay and puffed his lips out with his breath. And then - the watcher at his pulse took a fright. No one believed. They listened to his heart. Little - less - nothing! - and that ended it. No more to build on there. And they, since they Were not the one dead, turned to their affairs."
--Robert Frost

It is the lot of the living to walk the treadmill until our turn is over.We have no choice but to move on because we travel with time as long as we live. And the world keeps turning even when it feel like our hearts have stopped beating. We feel guilty when it seems we must leave our dead behind. But I believe Wordsworth had it right when he said:

"Our birth is but a sleep and a forgetting:
The Soul that rises with us, our life's Star,
Hath had elsewhere its setting,
And cometh from afar:
Not in entire forgetfulness,
... And not in utter nakedness,
But trailing clouds of glory do we come
From God, who is our home."

So death is a waking and remembering. And those who die actually leave the living behind for just a little while. Whether ahead or behind we are all traveling to the same place. Our paths will cross again.
Shout out to my grieving friends. I love you. My heart can't help but break along with yours. I'll make this journey with you in any way you need me to. Lean on me. Together we will find the "new normal".
God bless you.

9 comments:

Roland D. Yeomans said...

I am shakened by your tragedy. Miles away, never having met, yet I consider you a friend.

Some losses are too large to grasp with your heart and mind. Denial whimpers "Let it not be so."

But grim reality and its consequences will not let us lie to ourselves.

I have lost all but one of the people I loved. My cat scratched me awake some years back for me to awaken with a carpet of flames rolling across the celing above me.

I lost everything in that fire -- even the momento's of those beloved that I had earlier lost.

I say that just to say I cringe at the blow you have received. May your friends and inner strength guide you through these next dark days.

My email address is in my profile. If you need to vent, I am here. Roland

Jennifer Jenkins said...

I have no more words. I feel empty. Alone, but not alone. Sad and sadder. I want to weep and hit something. Mostly both. I want to find that new normal. It's evading me. I can't reach it.

I mourn.

Melanie said...

My love to you and your extended writers cubed family. No words work here. My soul holds you in embrace...

Write Chick said...

This made me cry Jo, and I've cried so much already. I want to come with you on the journey to the new "normal." Right now though, I just want to curl into a ball and bawl for my friends.

I love you!

Mat said...

I'm so greatful to have the group. You guys mean everything to me.

Colene Murphy said...

I'm so sorry to hear all this!! Wow. So so so sorry to everyone involved!

Lois D. Brown said...

Way to post something all smart and insightful and literary. I LOVE ya Jo and I wouldn't want to go through this with any other group of people.

Medeia Sharif said...

I'm so sorry to hear about these tragedies. :( My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Mark and Kiss said...

Beautiful insight. Sending love to you and your dear friends, all of you have been in my prayers.